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Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Names

I never really liked my name that much.  I would have preferred a more feminine name were I given the choice.   But names represent so much more than just words to call you by.  It represents what people would remember of you someday when you have already passed and left your work to be commemorated.  That is why we should work in protecting our names by living a life worth remembering about.

In the movie industry, artists take up screen names so that their name alone has an edge and is noticeable by the public.  I have compiled the real names of  some of the most popular figures in Hollywood, idolized by many and whose names are close to people's hearts.

Lady Gaga = Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta
Jon Bon Jovi = John Francis Bongiovi
Nicholas Cage = Nicholas Coppola
Brad Pitt = William Bradley Pitt
Angelina Jolie = Angelina Jolie Voight
Tom Cruise = Thomas Cruise Mapother IV
Vin Diesel = Mark Vincent
Eminem - Marshall Bruce Mathers III
Sylvester Stallone = Michael Sylvester Enzio Stallone 
Robert Pattinson - Robert Douglas Thomas Pattinson
Mel Gibson - Mel Columcille Gerard Gibson
Shakira - Shakira Isabel Mebarak Ripoll
Woody Allen = Allen Konigsberg
Stevie Wonder = Stevland Morris
Charlie Sheen = Carlos Irwin Estevez
Muhammad Ali = Cassius Marcellus Clay, Jr.
Julie Andrews = Julia Elizabeth Wells
Tony Bennett = Anthony Benedetto
David Bowie = David Robert Jones
Boy George = George Alan O'Dowd
Cher = Cherilyn Sarkisian
Nat King Cole = Nathaniel Adams Coles
David Copperfield = David Kotkin
Kirk Douglas = Issur Danielovitch
Bob Dylan = Robert Zimmerman
Enya = Eithne Ni Bhraonain
Michael J. Fox = Michael Andrew Fox
Whoopie Goldberg = Caryn Johnson
Cary Grant = Archibald Leach
Hulk Hogan = Terry Gene Bollea
Engelbert Humperdinck = Arnold George Dorsey
Ice Cube = Oshea Jackson
Elton John = Reginald Dwight
Tom Jones = Thomas Woodward
Diane Keaton = Diane Hall
Michael Keaton = Michael Douglas
Chaka Khan = Carole Yvette Marie Stevens
Bruce Lee = Lee Yuen Kam
Courtney Love = Michelle Harrison
Madonna = Madonna Louise Ciccone
Barry Manilow = Barry Alan Pincus
Marilyn Monroe = Norma Jean Mortenson (later Baker)
Chuck Norris = Carlos Ray
Prince = Prince Rogers Nelson
Winona Ryder = Winona Horowitz
Susan Sarandon = Susan Tomaling
Jane Seymour = Joyce Frankenberg
Sting = Gordon Sumner
Tina Turner = Annie Mae Bullock
The Undertaker = Mark Calloway
Sigourney Weaver = Susan Alexandra Weaver

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Yawn!

Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!  Yawn!

Try reading those words over and over or watching the images of yawning for a while and you'll find yourself yawning as well.  What is the reason behind that?  There have been so many discoveries of today causing technological advances and yet a simple thing as a yawn still baffles the most renowned scientists.  What is a yawn?  Yawning is said to be the body's way of controlling brain temperature so that we can think better.  The brain is said to cool down due to an influx or outflux of oxygen that yawning provides.  Sleep deprivation can also raise body and brain temperature so there can be a connection between yawning and sleepiness. That is maybe why a cold shower also alleviates yawning.  Others claim that it is caused by chemicals in the brain that affect emotions, appetite, and other phenomena.  However, what explains the contagious effects of yawning?  When you see somebody yawn, see pictures of yawning, or even read the word yawn, you have the involuntary impulse to yawn as well.  Nobody has ever fully explained the cause of yawning as being infectious.  Some say yawning may have evolved in early man as a way of signal to set up sleep schedules or it may be some kind of thought process that signals the brain to yawn.  Recent research however, suggests that it indicates the emphatic ability in appreciation of other people's behavioral and physiological state.    Whatever reason, yawning is very relaxing and it gives us a feeling of happiness and contentedness.  Come to think of it, maybe this is also a very effective way for very tired mothers struggling to put their little devils to sleep.  So go ahead and yawn to your heart's content.  Or should I say to your brain's content?  Hope I have not made you yawn too much while reading this though. =)

AHHH CHOOO!


Have you ever experienced sneezing while your eyes remain open?  I would guess not.  This is because the eyelid muscles along with the chest muscles, diaphragm, muscles on your vocal cords, and muscles at the back of your throat are the ones who work together to form the sneeze.  In the early days, sneezing was believed to be a means for the body to drive out evil spirits.  Now however, we know better.  Sneezing is a reflex that expels mucus containing foreign particles and cleansing the nasal cavity.  It is a convulsive expulsion of air from the lungs through the nose and mouth.  It may also be triggered by a full stomach or a viral infection that can very well lead to the spread of disease.  In addition, it may also be triggered by the sudden exposure to bright light.  About 1 out of every 3 people are called photic sneezers.  This is an inherited trait and these people are more sensitive to light which ultimately triggers their sneeze.  Isn't it irritating when you feel the need to sneeze but then suddenly lose it?  Why not try to face the sunlight next time and maybe that may solve your problem.  It is also a common misconception that the heart stops when we sneeze.  It really doesn't but it just feels like our heart changes beat because pressure is created which may alter the intensity of its beats.  The longest attack of sneezing that has been documented was that of Donna Griffiths from England who sneezed for 977 days from 1981 to 1983.  Now, would you not be grateful for your "occasional" sneeze?

Did Man Really Land on the Moon?

Looking through the vastness of the heavens, one can't help but feel very insignificant.  But then I think that mankind has been able to land on the moon, and it becomes quite real and gives me
hope that we are one step closer into unraveling the mysteries of the universe.  But is it real? Did man really land on the moon?  On May 16, 1990, Ralph Rene, a 47 year old American from New Jersey, became obssessed after watching the footage of man on the moon.  "How can the flag be fluttering when there's no wind on the atmosphere-free moon?"  He investigated Apollo moon landings, NASA films, photos and reports and reached an astonishing conclusion...  America had never put man on the moon.  It was the conspiracy to end all conspiracy theories.  It was said to have started on 1961, when Russia was leading the space race leaving a panicked America behind causing President Kennedy to propose to put a man on the moon and secured that plan with 40 billion dollars.  Seven Apollo ships headed to the moon, with Apollo 13 being the only one who had not made it.  The only proof according to Rene that these ships landed on the moon were the known rocks which could have been created through a lab, the TV footage wherein NASA did not provide direct link up that networks had to film it from a TV screen in Houston (so that nobody could examine it says Rene), and the photos which were perfectly exposed and sharply focused.  Not a single shot was blurry or badly composed as one would expect with the astraunauts' conditions and unaffected by intense cosmic radiation on the moon.  This last proof was also examined by award winning photographer David Persey and he claimed that the shadows on the photos could have only been created by powerful spotlights.  But then, the only light source on the moon was the sun.  They also said that the American flag and the words "United States" were also always brightly lit when everything around it were in shadow, and the still pictures do not match the film footage although they were shot at the same time.  There were also the questions regarding the walls of the Lunar landers that took the astraunauts from the spaceship into the moon.  It was said that the walls were not sufficient to protect humans from radiation and that the astraunauts should have been fried from such exposure.  There were so many more allegations that given their evidence, actually boggles the mind.  If these allegations are proven true, it would only mean that man never landed on the moon.  Either way, these testimonies inspires sorrow.  Because whether man really landed on the moon or not, it shows man's greed, destructiveness and constant need for power.

Monday, March 7, 2011

Harana (Serenade)

We Filipinos are conservative when it comes to wooing.  Basically, the guy still initiates the suyuan, an old fine tagalog word that indicates a man's declaration of his love by overt action,verbal or otherwise.  Usually it's non-verbal - singing, glancing or stealing glances, services - and indirect.  However, Filipino men have evolved in their wooing ways.  You seldom, probably never, see a modern Filipino man standing by a girl's window singing to her as you would in the olden times. Even the song "Harana by Parokya ni Edgar" narrates how nervous a common man is these days to serenade a girl they really like.  That was why my attention was captured a while ago, as I was watching an advertisement on the television about this highly ingenius business.  The HARANA.PH .  It is a professional serenade and surprise service in the Philippines which allows clients to send the traditional "harana" in memorable and creative ways.  The client may choose seasoned  artists to visit their loved ones on location and serenade them.(although, seasoned artists may cost much more compared to their regular performers).  They also cater to occasions like weddings and birthdays.  The regular package would include 2-3 songs, a message to be read by the artist, a special gift, and the instrumentalists and event organization.  Every event would also be recorded on video to document all the memorable moments.  Prices start from $125 and would also vary depending on the clients' preferences on how the serenade would be enacted.  Imagine how romantic it would be to be sent a "serenade" by your guy or to propose to your girlfriend in this very unique way and even have your "idols" singing your songs. So guys out there... Let's go back memory lane and take a lesson from our ancestors on how to really "woo" a woman.  Spice up your relationship and give your loved one the meaningful celebration they deserve.

The World's Worst Prophecies

I would like to share with you these predictions that I read about somewhere which quite amazed me.  They are about highly influential people/organizations that had helped shape our world as we know it today.  It would make you realize that you never really know what fate has in store for you.
1)  Theoretically, television may be feasible, but I consider it an impossibility! A development       which we should waste little time dreaming about.
- Lee de Forest, 1926, inventor of the cathode ray tube

2)   I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.
- Thomas J. Watson, 1943, Chairman of the Board of IBM

3)   It doesn't matter what he does, he will never amount to anything.
- Albert Einstein's teacher to his father, 1895

4)  It will be years - not in my time - before a woman will become Prime Minister.
- Margaret Thatcher, 1974

5)   This 'telephone' has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us.
- Western Union internal memo, 1876

6)   We don't like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out.
- Decca Recording Co. rejecting the Beatles, 1962

7)   Who the hell wants to hear actors talk?
- H. M. Warner, Warner Brothers, 1927

8)   640K ought to be enough for anybody.
- Bill Gates, 1981

9)   Louis Pasteur's theory of germs is ridiculous fiction.
- Pierre Pachet, Professor of Physiology at Toulouse, 1872
 

10)   Computers in the future may weigh no more than 1.5 tons.
- Popular Mechanics, forecasting the relentless march of science, 1949

11)   We don't need you. You haven't got through college yet.
- Hewlett-Packard's rejection of Steve Jobs, who went on to found Apple Computers

12)   King George II said in 1773 that the American colonies had little stomach for revolution.

13)   An official of the White Star Line, speaking of the firm's newly built flagship, the Titanic, launched in 1912, declared that the ship was unsinkable.

14)  In 1939 The New York Times said the problem of TV was that people had to glue their eyes to a screen, and that the average American wouldn't have time for it.

15)  An English astronomy professor said in the early 19th century that air travel at high speed would be impossible because passengers would suffocate.

16)   Airplanes are interesting toys, but they have no military value.
- Marshal Ferdinand Foch in 1911

17)   With over 50 foreign cars already on sale here, the Japanese auto industry isn't likely to carve out a big slice of the U.S. market.
- Business Week, 1958

18)   Whatever happens, the U.S. Navy is not going to be caught napping.
- Frank Knox, U.S. Secretary of the Navy, on December 4, 1941

19)   Stocks have reached what looks like a permanently high plateau.
- Irving Fisher, Professor of Economics, Yale University, October 16, 1929.

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Philadephia Experiment - Cover Up?

I am a sucker to mysteries, myths, and the unsolved..  That is why I became very interested with the story of the "Philadephia Experiment" also referred to as "Project Rainbow".  The experiment was an attempt by the US Navy during the WWII to create a ship (U.S.S Eldridge) that could not be detected by radar and invisible to enemy detection.  The plan was to generate massive electromagnetic fields which would bend light and radio waves around the ship, making it invisible to enemy observers.  It was said that the experiment was tried on animals that caused death and deep burns and despite it, the US Navy still proceeded to try it on humans.

The day of the experiment, The electromagnetic field generators were turned on and the U.S.S. Eldridge became nearly invisible.  Everything was fine for the first few seconds, but in a blinding blue flash, the ship completely vanished.  Within seconds it reappeared hundreds of miles away in Norfolk, Virginia and was seen for several minutes.  It disappeared from Norfolk as mysteriously as it had arrived, and reappeared back in Philadelphia Naval Yard. What begun as an experiment in electronic camouflage, ended up as an accidental teleportation of an entire ship and crew to a distant location and back again in a matter of minutes.  However, when they examined the ship, most of the crew were violently sick, missing, and five men were said to be found fused to the metal within the ship’s structure.  According to legend, most of the crew members eventually went insane, but a few retained their sanity only to face further situations. One man sat down to dinner with his wife and child, but then got up from the table, walked through the wall, and was never seen again. Two other sailors were also said to have simply disappeared into thin air and never seen again. Another crew member vanished in the middle of a fight, shocking his opponent. All of these incidents are said to have had witnesses.  Another side effect was of the men getting ‘stuck’ and unable to move or interact with anyone for long periods of time.  According to specialists, this phenomena was said to be a hoax and there is not much information found that isn’t tainted with doubt and speculation. There were 2 main witnesses who claimed the occurence of these events. One committed suicide (Carlos Miguele Allende) and the other was deemed unfit (Al Bielek).

Could any of this have actually occurred? What really happened in Philadelphia on 1943? Has the US government been lying all these years about their technological capabilities and how they have been using them? The questions and mysteries remain...

Friday, March 4, 2011

Photography

 It is very liberating to be able to express yourself through your work.  More so if you could capture those emotions and relate it to your audience.  A good photograph is not only looked at - but looked into.  In my opinion, I think a photography class should be a requirement in all educational programs because it makes you see the world rather than just look at it.  A photograph is memory in the raw.  I am an amateur in photography and planning to pursue learning more about it.  So that when words become unclear...  I shall focus with photographs...  =)












Dreams

Even with our advanced technologies, the human brain remains an enigma.  Countless phenomena are still unexplained, and one of these are dreams.  Dreams are one of life's most fascinating and intriguing mysteries.  The stuff of legends, myth, and scriptures.  There are different beliefs as to what dreams are. Some say they are voices from beyond and others say it is your own soul communicating with you.  Specialists see it as one's own subconscious mind aiding his conscious mind to go through the events of his life.  Dreams are vehicles from which your mind communicates ideas, warnings and health issues. Dreams are very efficient.  They can address multiple issues all in one story line.  They may warn you of health dangers, predict the future, point out personality flaws, or solve a current problem.  I have listed some of the most common characters in our dreams and their meanings according to dream specialists.  Just bear in mind that your own perceptions of your dreams always take precedence over any definition.

1) animals - They symbolize our own traits, good and bad.  When you see an animal in your dreams, it usually represents a bad trait as it is far easier for us to accept and watch an animal doing something negative than to take credit for it ourselves.

2) automobiles/vehicles - It usually reflects the direction you are heading in life or your body.  The condition of the vehicle might give you an idea of your health.  Therefore, flying a jet in the sky with a song in your heart would be a rather good dream.  =)

3) children - A child represents something new, different, and joyous.  A child may represent a new phase in your life or a new project as well.  It may also symbolize innocent parts of one's self.

4) clothing - When you get into different moods, you tend to choose different clothing.  For this reason, clothing symbolizes your mood or state of mind.  It may also reflect your attitude. Take note of what you or the other people in your dream are wearing and you would get more clues as to the dream's meaning.

5) death - Any dream that refers to dying or funerals pertain to change.  The change is usually dramatic and major or can be changes in your life attitude and emotional balance. It may also symbolize confronting fear and threat.

6) buildings - These usually points directly to a specific area of your life.  Dreaming of being in an office may pertain to your working environment.  A bathroom may point to your general health and hygiene and the kitchen in your eating and nutrition.  To dream of your childhood house however, tends to be a reflection of your life today.  A dream of chaos in your childhood can indicate great disturbances in your life either now, or soon.

7) people - People in dreams most commonly reflect important aspects of your personality.  These traits are the ones you should enhance or eliminate.  You should ask yourself what traits you like and dislike in the characters you dream about and look for those traits in yourself.  You might be surprised to find a match up.

If you want to read more about dreams, visit DREAM SITE

Sweet dreams everyone! =)

Are you single?

Are you single?  The start of the year can be somewhat of a downer if you’re lonely and looking for love. Must I be reminded that I still don’t have a ring on my finger or someone to make vacation plans with?! While you might be the most fabulous single girl on the block, we all have our moments of insecurity when we wish there was a guy around to warm up those cold nights. With the start of the year, however, maybe it’s time to stop sulking and start showing off how amazing you are, single or not. In fact, it is the perfect time to turn inward, pay attention to your own needs, and act with class and confidence. Out with the old, in with the new.  It’s time to toss away those self-defeating habits and try on some new, more affirming attitudes and behaviors. This goes for your dating style as well as all other areas of your life. Are you hoping to meet a nice guy but only hang around at trashy clubs or dive bars? Want to get in shape but still haven’t signed up for that gym membership? You can’t make room for the things you want until you give up the things that aren’t working. Take action to try something different even if you end up failing. Moreover, go out and spend more time with other singles.  Sure, you adore your married best friends and happily attached co-workers, but do you have enough single cronies in your life? Whether we want to admit it or not, singles and non-singles can lead very different lifestyles. It can be affirming and empowering to have other unattached gal pals to bond with when everyone else is having date night.   Finally, you must do what you do.  You’ve heard this before, but it merits repeating.  Go live your life for you! One of the greatest things about being single is the freedom. After all, your married pals probably can’t skip town for the weekend or study abroad in Spain for the summer without factoring in a husband or boyfriend. This really is the time to indulge your every wild dream and tiniest guilty pleasure. Once a man arrives on the scene, compromise becomes your mantra.   Since nothing is more important than you, give your single life some props and just be your fabulous self. The added bonus? No man can resist a confident, self-sufficient, and optimistic woman. Maybe the saying that you find love when you stop looking for it is true after all.

Friends

This is the most hilarious series that I just loooove to watch over and over.  It is set in New York City and chronicled the lives of six best friends as they went through the ups and downs of romance and career from the confines of their local coffee shop and some pretty fabulous Manhattan apartments.  What differentiated it from other sitcoms and made it a bonafide hit was the unique chemistry of its cast.  The neurotic clean freak Monica (Courtney Cox), her endearingly hangdog brother Ross (David Schwimmer),  the none-too-bright actor-wannabe Joey (Matt LeBlanc), the sarcastic computer programmer Chandler (Matthew Perry), the new-age free spirit Phoebe (Lisa Kudrow), and the reformed spoiled rich girl whose influential fashion sense launched a thousand hairstyles Rachel (Jennifer Aniston).  Every line and quip really tickles one's funny bone.  Thumbs up to the cast and crew of Friends!

Greys Anatomy

One of my favorite TV series.  The main character Meredith, started off as a first year surgical intern at Seattle Grace Hospital, the toughest surgical residency program west of Harvard.  She and fellow first year interns Christina Yang, Izzie Stevens, George O'Malley and Alex Karev were students yesterday...  Today they were doctors.  And in a world where the job training can be a matter of life and death, they are all juggling the ups and downs of thier own personal lives.  The five interns struggle to form friendships in this most stressful and competitive atmosphere.  It is a very inspiring program that makes you laugh, cry, and sigh.  I for one, cannot get enough of it.  It makes you learn so much more about medicine, surgeons, and life in totality.

Imposing moral standards on others

When we impose that others must conform to our idea of what is right and acceptable, we only show that we ourselves are unsure of our own principles.  Someone who is sure of himself allows others to be themselves.  Every person has his own ideology and it is plain arrogance to surmise that our own belief is the only appropriate alternative.  Being unstable in character causes a person to prop himself up and force others into his mold.  You learn more when you look into other perspectives and even develop yours in the process.  In a relationship, you don't demand that your partner must be a carbon copy of yourself.  After all, you don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note.

Writing

I've had this passion for writing ever since I can remember and I sometimes wonder what's inside people's heads if not stories?  Writers literally create new worlds from scratch.  Our aim is not to copy actuality but to modify and recreate our sense of it. Like actors, a writer invites a reader to watch a performance in his own brain.  For me, writing is exploration and  it often suprises me on where the journey takes me.  I have also come to realize that writing is the most direct contact possible with the part of myself I thought I had lost, and which I constantly find new things from.  Through it I can speak about things that are important to me and somebody listens.  My purpose in writing is to entertain myself first and other people secondly.  There are so many things in this world and so many things to write about.  Writing is only boring to people who are probably boring themselves.  Or maybe, it is a cop-out...  An excuse to live perpetually in fantasy land, where you can create and watch the products of your own head.  Be that as it may, the reason one writes is not the fact that he wants to say something.  One writes because he has something to say.

Billiards

I learned how to play billiards while in school, ironically, while I was NOT in classes.  It is a sport recently becoming more and more popular in the Philippines especially after the continuous victories of international players Efren "Bata" Reyes and Francisco "Jango" Bustamante.  Their legendary wins prompted many Filipinos both young and old to play billiards.  There are three main types of billiards: carom billiards, pocket billiards (also known as pool), and snooker. Carom billiards is played with three balls, a cue ball and two object balls, on a pocketless table; scoring is by caroms only, i.e., by causing the cue ball to strike the object balls in specified ways. Pocket billiards is played with 15 object balls and a cue ball on a table with six pockets; the essential object of the game is to cause the object balls to enter the pockets. Snooker is similar to pocket billiards, except that it uses 21 object balls and smaller pockets.  In earlier days, it is considered as a man's sport since billiard tables are most oftenly found on bars and men's clubs.  Recently however, more women are involved with the game and in fact in fair competition with men.  It just takes a steady hand, strategy, and geometry familiarity in order to play this very enjoyable game. 

Thursday, March 3, 2011

The Art of Being Alone

Many people abhor being alone.  They get easily bored and they try to find something better to do with their time.  Most people even avoid eating out alone since it may prompt pity from others that you are someone who cannot find anyone to eat with.  But being alone is sometimes a rare gift especially in this noisy crowded world.  We must learn how to relax and tune-in to our inner selves.  Certain people find special happiness just sitting alone in a park, walking alone by the beach, or having coffee alone in a shop.  I admit I am one of those people.  Although I do love parties and crowds, I find it soothing to be by myself at times, assessing life and basically thinking about things that have come to pass or things that are yet to happen.  It is in these solitary moments that we can reexamine ourselves and replenish our inner strengths. 

Thinking = cooking?

Thinking is like cooking.  Sometimes you turn up the heat to expedite cooking but in the end, the food is not as flavorful as it was supposed to be.  Many dishes taste better after long, slow cooking.  Therefore,  whenever you are faced with a problem, it is better to let it "simmer"in your subconscious for a while and go about your normal activities.  Stressing yourself to come up with answers on the spot may work at times, but it can become quite exhausting.  Turn to your subconscious mind for help.  Like a stove in low flame, you can place your problem and finish the "cooking" process more effectively.  Many scientists and artists made their best work and discoveries while doing daily mundane tasks like while on a bath, taking a hike, or just somewhere else other than the desk.  So cook it up, take a break, and find the answers.

Does he like me or is he just being nice?

Every person and situation may be different, but there are some universal signs to know if a guy really likes you or if he's just plain nice.
He stares at you.  If you find him looking your way, see if he's really staring at you or merely looking your way, or maybe cross-eyed.  Maybe he's a credit investigator or something.  Try to find out.
He asks personal questions.  Asking the time or the date does not count unless he asks several times in an hour.  If he asks questions like, "What do you like for your birthday?" or "Are you looking for a boyfriend now?" it could be a sign, unless he has a geeky brother and you could be in for a set-up.
He compliments you.  If he says, "You remind me of my mother", take it as a compliment unless he hates his mother, in which case he may have emotional problems.  When he says, "You don't need to diet, you look great", especially if you're 4'11 and 200 lbs, then it's a significant compliment.
He does extra helpful things.  If he helps you finish your sandwiches, think again.  Maybe he's only interested in your sandwich.  However, if you needed to submit a report and he doesn't mind working until 3am and still has to go home in a shanty town where you get shot for smiling, then this guy is not just in love...  He's crazy. 
And you're crazier for not knowing he likes you.

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Dieting makes you dumb?

Dieting makes your thinking less than razor sharp, according to the Institute of Food Research Laboratory in England.  Researchers took a group of healthy women who were trying to shed a few pounds and tested their mental quickness on tasks like hitting a button in response to certain words.  On the days they were dieting, the women performed worse than they did when they were not.  Why?  The reasons are said to be psychological.  You're worried about losing weight right away and it consumes a lot of energy and mental space.  Researchers, however, say that once you get used to the diet, your normal "smarts" should return.

Chris Medina in American Idol...



I heard about this story from a friend who is a fan of American Idol.  This video is of Chris Medina, a contestant with a great voice but a tragic story.  A story that inspired me to believe that real love and commitment do exist.  Chris has been with his girl Julia for 6 years and were engaged to be married until two months before their wedding, when Julia had a car accident that left her with a traumatic brain injury.  They even had the video of his proposal at Starbucks where Julia had worked.  After the accident, everything changed.  But Chris went on with the engagement, stuck by her side and became, as her mother related, her number one caregiver.  In interviews, Chris quotes, "I was about to make vows just two months from the accident – through thick and thin, 'til death do us part, for better or worse," he said. "What kind of guy would I be if I walked out when she needed me the most?". Touched and inspired like everybody else of his story, Rodney Jerkins wrote a song for him entitled What Are Words . It is a powerful song about making promises and fulfilling them, about telling someone you love that you’ll be there and having them be able to count on you because you said it. Because the words that you say really mean something.

What would you do if you were in his position?  It takes great love and faith to continue fighting.


"The night has a thousand eyes, And the day but one; Yet the light of the bright world dies, With the dying sun. The mind has a thousand eyes, And the heart but one; Yet the light of a whole life dies, When love is done."

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Risk

"You can never cross the ocean unless you lose sight of the shore"

A very helpful excerpt provided of course that you would be riding a vessel and not swimming, because in that way, what is the use of losing sight of the shore when you won't last swimming to cross the ocean anyway?  Risk is good...  Risk takes courage...  Risk can make you succeed.  But in taking risks, you would also have to weigh the consequences and be aware of what you are capable of in order to achieve success.  There is a difference between risking because you have the courage and risking because you are stupid or simply do not care.  In business, the bigger the risk, the bigger the returns you get when you succeed.  But businessmen do not gamble away money and assets just for the hell of it.  It takes certain amount of research coupled with intuition to back up these risks.  When you risk, it is better to expect the worst so that when you don't get to win, you would be ready to face the losses.  In life, you take every kind of risk.  You risk being hit by a bus when you cross the street, you risk heartbreak when you commit into a relationship,  you risk side effects when you drink your medicine...  But of course you don't cross the street when the light is green, you don't commit yourself to a well-known rake, nor drink medicine without consulting the doctor.  Like everything else in life, risking has its merits... provided that you respect its limits.

Marriage

What is happening to the world! Everybody is getting married! I say this maybe because it seems that I'm the only one who isn't.  How many women around the world envisioned their perfect wedding? I see my perfect wedding as standing by the beach in my flowing spaghetti-strapped white dress with garlands in my head and white tulips in my hands.  I walk down the aisle to the sound of "Standing Right Next to Me by Karla Bonoff" being sang by the choir and my dream man waiting at the end (probably with tears in his eyes caused by happiness) all the while gazing at me with love in his eyes.  The sun setting in the horizon as the wind carries all my fears, all my disappointments, all the loneliness of the past from my chest.  And voila! that's it.  We live happily ever after.  End of story.  Yeah right, that's not how marriage works.  Marriage is not a one-time choice you make.  You don't just think on it and say "yes" to the proposal and expect everything else to work out because you've already made your choice.  In a marriage, you make choices everyday.  The children are whining,   the house is in shambles,  you meet your gorgeous neighbor,   you suspect your husband is cheating, bills need to be paid and you fall short on cash...  The list goes on and on.  There will always be someone more perfect who will come along.  There will always be an opportunity of a better life that will present itself.  But you make the choice of staying and committing yourself to the marriage.  I have heard a very moving speech on a wedding I attended.  The bride said that she was sure she found the right man because he is her "anyway man."  That no matter what happens, no matter what hurtful things they might say, no matter what imperfection she might see in him,  she loves him "anyway".  That is marriage.  It is committing yourself to the person you love and continuously loving him no matter what.  It is a decision you make everyday through good or bad times.  It is a lifetime choice.

no arms... no legs... no worries

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I would like to share with you this video about one of the most admirable men I have come across with.  Far from ordinary, a man from Australia born with no arms and legs.  He went beyond rising to the challenge that fate has dealt him and inspired thousands of people.  I cannot help the tears from falling...

We are bereaved  when others taunt us...  But what degree of mockery did he withstand?
We grumble about things we cannot buy...  But what use are things when you don't have the means to use  them?
When we are ignored by loved ones, we get broken...  How much more rejections has he faced?
We curse life, we curse fate, we curse God...  Yet the man who has most reasons to do so embraces life...  Preaches hope...  Advocates faith.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Love on the internet?

Online dating is big business, and growing more and  more in credibility every year. Surveys claim that 50% of single people believe they will meet a suitable partner this way. The stain from dating agencies seems to have gone, and more people are attracted by the advantages of online dating. This type of dating provides the privacy to look around from the comforts of their own home and not needing to go to an actual dating agency office, which in turn would take a lot of courage.  Of course, there are many areas of life in which the internet seems to be taking over like classified ads in selling cars, finding houses, and planning holidays. But the boom in online dating is not simply a more efficient and flexible way of doing things that we would otherwise have done. It reflects an essential shift in how people are encouraged to think about their personal relationships and organize their personal lives... with intimacy acted out in public and subject to the norms one might associate with buying a car, a house, or a holiday.  The fashion for finding “love online” represents a redefinition of what we mean by “love”. No longer is love a spontaneous emotion, an extraordinary state of being, a necessary evil on the path to self-fulfillment. Rather, it is remolded as a therapeutic practice...  Something to be planned and managed in the way one might plan and manage one's career, in the awareness that it might not last forever and moving on is no bad thing.  People seeking love online might not be looking to develop an emotional CV, but that is what the process sells them.  Search a guy, interview, and hire.

how do I talk to women?


Are you the type of person who blanks out when faced with your crush?  Do you sweat like crazy when a woman you like sits next to you in a bar?  Unlike popular opinion, it's actually pretty easy to approach women and  initiate conversation. The problem is being able to continue the conversation and get them interested  in what you have to say.   As you probably know, once you  run out of things to say, the conversation is finished!  Bye bye romance... Potential lovelife... poof!  So what's the solution?  Well the truth is it's simple to find topics of conversation. All you have to do is ask a woman a few questions about herself then relate them to stories from your own life.  As you probably know, women LOVE interesting and funny stories. You can take advantage of this trait by relating events from your past and tying them up to her own experiences. The best way to get started is to craft your own stories.  No matter what your life has been like at this point, you've probably had atleast a few interesting stories.  The important thing is to put a humorous and higher status slant on each story.  A great story should follow the same format and presentation as a great joke.   Obviously your goal is to craft these stories WELL before you meet women. In fact, practice them enough so you can build drama and humor each time you tell them.  Now when you're talking to a woman, you can literally "fish" for conversation topics. Simply ask women questions about her background and interests. Then look for topics which you can relate to one of your stories. All you have to do is demonstrate the common thread between your experiences and her life.  This type of conversation works well because you're relating something from your own life to something she has done. Furthermore if you tell your story well, you can demonstrate core traits like humor and high status.  In addition, since you're making a connection to a shared interest, it'll increase your chances of developing rapport. It's human nature to like people who are similar to ourselves. So a woman will like you because your stories will show how much you have in common.  So if you want to increase your conversation success, then I recommend you craft a few interesting stories from your own life. Then when you first meet a woman, you can latch on to her experiences and relate them to the exciting things you've done in your life.  Ofcourse, nobody likes a liar and women can smell miscreants so you must tell real stories about you because anything less and you would be cheating yourself in finding the right woman for you .  You may not know it, but maybe that woman you’ll sit beside the bus next time might be THE one and you would want to be ready for it.

beauty or brains?

If you were given the choice, would you choose to be beautiful but dense? Or an ugly genius?  What is really more essential in life?  Would it that this question be asked in a beauty pageant, the typical answer would be that the mind makes a person seem more beautiful.  But does society in actuality really believe this?  Beauty impels attention, but so does a bright mind.  Jobs demanding beauty are as well paid as jobs requiring intelligence.  People make fun of physical flaws but also look down on idiocy.  Maybe on that score, an idiot may be less affected because he does not understand the mockery he's being subjected to.  As a result, he has less reason to acquire insecurities and self-doubts.  But on the other hand, being beautiful instigates vanity whereas quick thinking and wit endears a person to others. So which then is better?  Being dumb enough and not knowing you're the butt of jokes or being too smart thus assimilating just how your ugliness matters?  Pretty ugly pictures of each right?  Both may be positive traits but encourage intimidation and negativity.  Maybe that is why there is a balance to life.  A lot of white is overly bright whereas an abundance of black gives darkness.  So next time you see a gorgeous girl or an Einstein replica, don't go pointing at the heavens and cursing fate...  Think a moment...  Everything at the extreme is detrimental. =)

Friday, February 25, 2011

Jobs

People regard jobs in different perspectives.  Most people see it as a means to earn money. Some to find fulfillment... Some to have power...  And for some lucky few born in the higher echelons of life, to just pass the time.  For most of us lucky enough to have the means to finish our studies and get degrees, landing a decent job is the ultimate goal of the years we've spent studying our asses off.  As a student, I did my best to earn good grades but never really grasped the idea of the "real world" looming at the end of my university life.  The "real world" is full of the pressures of proving yourself, of competition, of politics in the workplace and diverse people with conflicting interests.  In our country, where job opportunities are scarce and two out of three Filipinos are unemployed, you go through rejections and disappointments that the weak of heart would surely concede defeat.  Cutthroats meander the corporate world that you always have to be at the top of your game and be steadfast in your goals.  You work your hardest but still sometimes you get beaten.  You move on, work even harder, and learn.  Until the time comes when your efforts are rewarded.  It is the sweetest thing to receive a raise for a job well done;  to be praised by superiors for great performance; to earn the respect of your colleagues; to simply reap the fruits after a tough grind.  People often say, "it is only a job".  But our jobs define us.  Our performances, our goals, our drive, our priorities define who we are and how we view life itself.  It does not matter what kind of job you have or how much money you earn but the important thing is how your job makes you feel and how a job molds you as a person.  Two persons who earn little may be molded by a job differently.  One may stay content and one might be motivated to strive harder.  One may hate serving others and one might be honored by it.  How you view your job defines you.  That is why it is important to find your niche.  Find something you know you're good at and somewhere you know you would be happy in.  A job is not viewed as work if you enjoy what you're doing and feel duly rewarded and "seen" for your efforts.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Hundred Islands









A trip to Hundred Islands National Park and its home, Alaminos City, is a great diversion from the hustle and bustle of the busy, urban life.  Definitely one of the highlights of Philippines’ ecotourism, it is about 7 hours away north of Manila. The long drive was definitely worth it by the time we got there.  On our way to Lucap, we passed by the San Jose drive to view the old colonial houses in the area.  We booked a room at the Maxine by the sea lodge which I can say is rather decent with air conditioning, two queen-sized beds and cable tv.  We arrived around 1pm and spent that first day enjoying the view of the islands from a far while relaxing by the sea deck at Maxine's.  We bought some souvenirs by the Lucap Wharf and visited the Pantalan lighthouse; "pantalan" meaning pier or port.  While we sit by the port talking, I was able to capture the amazing sun set view.  We had dinner at Maxine and I must say I was disappointed because I was expecting much from the good reviews about the place and the food turned out a little bland and much too pricey basing on the lack of taste and flavors.  The next day, we got up before dawn to capture the sun rise and partook of our free breakfast.  The breakfast was a big improvement as compared to dinner since we chose the Filipino style breakfast consisting of one viand (longganisa, bangus, tocino, etc..), 2 eggs, rice and juice.  We boarded our rented boat around 7am to start our tour of the islands.  The nearest islands from the Lucap Wharf are Sulpot Island, Monkey Island, Abad Santos Island and Hernandez Island, which are all 15 to 20 minutes away. The major (and developed) islands, Children's, Governor's and Quezon can be reached after a 25 to 45-minute boat ride.  Our first stop was the Quezon Island. It is one of the most developed islands and is known to have the best swimming beach.  (personally, I would prefer the more fine sand and secluded beach of the Governor's Island) Quezon Island is the best destination for families as there are two dining pavilions and grilling areas.  There is a bridge that leads to a viewing deck on the other side of the island and a giant clam and coral nursery close to one of the dining pavillions.  We snorkeled near the island where giant clams can be seen and it was remarkable!  We passed by the Children's Island and Turtle Island on our way.  Children's Island was amply named because of its shallow waters mostly knee-deep, making it safe for children.  It is also mostly for budget travelers as it consists only of screened bedrooms with electricity, fresh water and linens. Kerosene lighting is provided for after 12 midnight. We continued on and went spelunking on Cuenco Cave which is also ideal for campers as it provides big spaced shelter where travelers can pitch their tents.  Of the 3 major islands, my favorite was the Governor's Island.  It is the only island there who keeps a guesthouse ideal for family use. We took the hundred or so steps up to the viewing deck where you can behold the majestic view of the hundred islands...  It was breathtaking.  There is also the popular Pinoy Big Brother house situated at the middle of the island giving a great view of the shoreline and nearby islands as well.  The beach at Governor's island was like a dream.  Very secluded and picturesque with fine white sand and great rock formations.  You could also have a shot at scuba diving since Alaminos houses great marine life and equipments and lessons are being offered on the governor's island  It was a trip really worth the effort and money.  No doubt about it, Hundred Islands is truly an awe-inspiring beauty to the ones who experience it.


Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Club Balai Isabel


It was my birthday that day and my friends and I were looking for someplace near just to unwind and be together.  I scanned the internet and came up with this amazing resort with breathtaking views.  We booked for an overnight stay.  When we got there, it was as it seemed on the photos.. beautiful indeed! Lush vegetation welcomes guests as soon as they enter and it offers an up-close and personal view of the lake and its world-famous volcano.  This picturesque setting makes it a popular wedding and pre-nuptial photoshoot destination.  We were given a room in the Orchard Lane with 4 double beds and a kitchen.  The clubhouse is at the heart of the resort and looks out over the infinity pool and the lake and volcano beyond it. The resort offers numerous big-sized pools, all situated to provide a great view of the taal volcano.  It is also great for company outings and large corporate gatherings since they offer needed facilities and function rooms.  Water activities are also available like kayak and jet skis and a trip to the taal volcano by motor boats.  We lolled by the pool, basked in the serenity of the place and I must say that our mere overnight stay was not enough.  The only thing I could impart a negative comment on was the food served at the restaurant.  It was really bland and pricey.  However, the resort allows guests to bring their own food and each room is equipped with a kitchen and needed utensils.  This place for me is a perfect getaway and I must say.. brides to be.. take it down for your future weddings.